4 in 10 French women wait for their partner to fall asleep or be away from the toilet to defecate. You will also likely close doors other than bathroom doors to reduce the sounds of bowel movements, or to increase the volume of music or television.
This is what is known as “shyness to defecate?” Which means shyness to defecate in the workplace or the home of friends, or anywhere outside the home. This disorder affects women more, and it is not without consequences for their health. Read also 5 hidden differences that science reveals between men and women Amnesty International: Violence against women continues in the Arab world Working from home boosted men’s productivity and career prospects and increased pressure on women Women are ashamed of menopause … a suffering that cannot be felt by those around
Writer Christine Matos says – in a report published in the French newspaper ” L’Epparisien ” – that you surely met one of your colleagues in the corridor while he was heading to the toilet. But have you ever seen one of your female colleagues do this? Usually the answer is no. In fact, the topic may seem funny, but it represents a cultural and psychological burden that weighs on women and negatively affects their health.
These women are bothered by going to the bathroom when it is not in a place that provides them with complete privacy. This is the case at work or in friends’ homes, or even at home when husbands are next to them.
Therefore, embarrassment at the idea of meeting this natural need in these situations is systematically greater among women (56%) and men (42%). This case was the subject of a study by the French Foundation for Public Opinion conducted on behalf of Diogan France.
The author states that it is known that women feel anxious or ashamed, more than men, from defecation in their workplace (60%) or with friends (57%). As for public toilets (many of which are currently closed due to the health crisis), the “gender gap” is more important.
In addition, the negative perception of the toilets (dirty, insecure enough …) drives a feeling of discomfort in 62% of those who go to toilets, despite their fears, to seek not to touch the toilet seat (compared to 28% of men).
François Krause, director of the Department of Gender and Sexual Health at the French Foundation for Public Opinion, explains that “the shame of defecation appears to be a sign of gender discrimination. A woman who defecates is disgusting, while the idea is culturally acceptable for men. You pee except what looks like gold. ” Krause realizes that this is an additional stress on women, culturally linked to “perfection, cleanliness, purity.”
The research also suggests that if noise and smell are the main reasons, for both genders, to feel embarrassed about defecation, then women are actually more embarrassed than the idea that one could simply imagine them in the toilet.
Many implications for women’s health
And it is related to the social formation since childhood. “If a boy fartes, everyone laughs. If the girl does this, she is insulted,” explains American Sarah Albie, author of several children’s books and also for Bob Hubbend.
Thus, stereotypes about gender and feminine norms can have an effect on the relationship with the body, self-representation, but also on gut health. The reason for this phobia of defecation in a place other than the home is a disorder called defecation shame.
The result is that these women have higher rates of colon irritation (which lasts longer) and inflammatory bowel disease. According to a survey by the French Foundation for Public Opinion, 41% of women currently have constipation problems (compared to 18% in men) and 38% of digestive disorders (cramps, pain in the lower abdomen, etc.).